Sunday, November 02, 2008


I am a firm believer of the laws of Karma. What goes around goes back to you. I learned the hard way as a young adult. A lot of things I did wrong came back to bite me on the butt. I paid the price and learned to respect the laws of Karma.

However, what does one do about someone who acts like a victim when s/he is not? S/he goes on and on about it as if s/he is a victim. S/he is like a sexual predator who says, "It is not my fault I am like this. Someone made me that way. It is their fault I am that way." A predator acting like a victim. This describes this person to a T.

So, how do we go about this? Pretend we didn't hear her/him? Rub it in her/his face? Talk to her/him about it? Exact a revenge upon her/him? Reject her/him? What? It'd be nice to hear from Candace McCullough from ACS to see what she has to offer on this. From my position, I could only offer the ideology of Karma. Think before you act. Think how you do will come back to you. Think about how you like to be treated and treat others accordingly.

The latter applies to the case in point. The insults thrown upon others freely could not be how the person wishes to be treated by others, correct? So, why does the person inflict insults and belittlement upon others? I can only assume he/she actually likes being insulted and belittled? It is actually hard to swallow, but really, could it be so?

Is it really because s/he truly believes s/he was made that way by other people? That s/he is truly a victim of her/his upbringing? A vicious cycle? Or is the physiology of the person responsible? In other words, is it in the genes? Or what??

All I know is, I learned from my life experience and modified my behavior. I only can assume some people are not capable of correcting their behavior. Some just keep repeating the same things over and over even after getting bit in the butt by the laws of Karma. Is it because s/he is too dense to realize it is Karma or ....just is incapable to see the reality of what is happening? Does s/he distort the truth to fit his own reality? In other words, s/he actually thinks s/he is a victim...that everyone else is mean and vicious to her/him for no reason, that s/he absolved self of any wrongdoing?

This goes for cyberbullying. It has been a problem on DR for a long while now. There have been some disciplinary actions taken by Tayler Mayer who banned certain individuals from DR and DVTV. Those cyberbullies were WARNED to stop or it would turn around to them one day. It's happened. It is called Karma. As I said, it is hard to swallow that they were victims.

Respect the laws of Karma. What you do to others will be undone upon you. It is simply a golden rule in the matters of life.


Beaux Arts de Boutjean said...

Hi Cy,

First and foremost, it is really good to "see" you back on your blogsite because I am one of your big fans, smile.

I am glad that you have asked thousands and a question as you did in your post. Some people preach or send the laws of Karma to other people, but they do NOT practice what they "preach".

So I wholeheartedly agree with you when you say you would love to hear what Dr. Candace McCullough would have to say about that. Hopefully soon.

I guess you have been very busy at school this fall.

Karen Mayes said...

Gotcha. That was going on in my mind... that some appear to like being victimes, calling for attention. Well, in wrong ways, because they are not given the right tools. Once given and taught to use the tools, they'd change the attitudes and become better people.

But then no one likes to admit we all have our own weaknesses.

Good blog.

Dianrez said...

Karma will have the "poor me, I'm a victim" people actually become VICTIMS.

In society, we have a general expectation of doing no harm to one another, of behaving politely, even of helping one another. These general rules are often unwritten, but still expected and we all know it. Karma follows from that: we turn away from those who do not follow the unwritten rules.

Bad businesses lose customers. Unfaithful people lose friends. Rude people lose opportunities. Dishonest people lose jobs or freedom.

In the Deaf community, already a small and close-knit one, the effects of karma can be profound.

Anonymous said...


That's what happened to David Ebewerin last summer 2008 for his past actions inflicted upon many deaf Gallaudet students. The bad karma came back to haunt DE and the DBC for what he done to many deaf people.

I HOPE that there will be the bad karma for John McCain losing his 2008 presidential election!

Obama already paid the price dearly for the recent loss of his deceased grandmother today. The Almighty God tested Obama's strengths and diligence.

I am sure that DE will be more and more careful of how he treat deaf people in general. No elitist attitudes toward particular deaf people.

Cy said...

Beaux, yes, I've been so busy with work. When I read about some bloggers proclaiming themselves as victims after getting booted off DR, I just had to write about karma.


I think even with given the right tools, some people will always view themselves as victims when they are really not and will eternally blame others for their misfortunes.

You said it. In a small community such as ours, karma has such a profound impact on the individual.


I don't know if DE's been hit with the laws of karma...I've never met the guy. I wrote this in regards to some bloggers proclaiming themselves as victims when they really aren't....that they had it coming to them. If you say DE acted superior to others and it turned tables on him, then, I guess he was hit with karma, then. I suppose this also applies to some people who were involved in the DBC scandal last summer. They WERE expecting different response from what they received after the Milwaukee conference. They got a nasty surprise for sure. Let's hope they learned that it pays to be transparent. Hidden agendas only make people suspicious which was what happened. I understand they eventually did come forward and came clean which was good.

Anonymous said...

Hi Cy

I never been to your site until I saw your writing about Karma and I decided to come and write.

I am firm believer in Karma and try to be the best person as I can knowing what I do will come back in positive way.

As for cyberbullies, I was victim of one two weeks ago and I simply stood up to this bully and reported to Taylor and this person got banned from DVTV. This bully proclaimed innocence, writing bad stuff against me and Taylor and others. I again stood up and wrote rebuttal in my "Southside7" website in DR

I would never be intimidiated by bullies. Of course I was deeply hurt and offended and was ready to end it off an leave DVTV and DR. Many of people here DVTV and DR encouraged me to stand firm and hang in there with lots of love and support and caring words. Now, I feel better there are many good people out there and not let few bullies to bully me into submission.

Excellent writing!

"Harleygirl248" in DVTV